- Don’t immediately assume that people have bad intentions — Always give the benefit of the doubt.
No one is ever intentionally bad or ALL bad at least. With everything getting gratified instantly. We can’t help but reluctantly assume people’s intentions with no considerations. Oftentimes, it’s our insecurities that subconsciously convince us to think negatively and also, the media that we are exposed to.
Example: At the workplace
When someone seems to be inefficient. It’s so easy to condemn and complain about the person giving you a hard time and being incapable or just being pure lousy. No one bothers to look at the other person’s point of view.
- The world doesn’t revolve around you. People have a lot of things to worry about to even bother wasting their energy and time to just give you a hard time.
- Try to understand the other person, maybe there’s a valid reason behind it, and it’s you, who lack the judgment. Don’t embarrass yourself get a better grasp of what’s happening by getting all the outputs necessary.
- Perhaps the other person is going through a rough time. Be kind and help them out. It will make you feel good plus it’s free!
2. Don’t get ahead of yourself let things unravel on its own course. Cause you might miss out on amazing things.
With all the distractions that we have and the pressure of having to keep up with what society expects of us, we become too hectic; that we stick to our comfort zone and tend to be hasty in closing our windows on seemingly mundane circumstances. Things may not always seem as it is. Give it some time, before you fall for the trap of your false impressions. Not all treasures are shiny. Some take time and nurturing before it reveals its amazing self.
Example: At a social gathering
It’s so easy for us to just stick to the status quo. That we miss the chance to interact and get to know people with different backgrounds.
Things to consider:
- Exposing yourself to people with similar interests as you is good. But isolating yourself to such an environment can limit your horizons. You’ll be surprised by what you can learn from other people by simply taking the time to hear their stories. It may not be in line with everything relevant to you at the moment but it will definitely diversify your perspective. Who knows the lessons you might learn are just the things you needed to hear for your next journey or you might be missing out on a possible friendship.
3. Ask yourself “Who do you think you are?” My favorite phrase for practicing humility. #StopTheEntitlement.
With the era of social media, we are very much entitled to instant validation of our insecurities, rants, and complaints. This fuels our ego and gives us a certain arrogance. With that said, we put ourselves on a pedestal even though we don’t deserve it. We complain a lot, we don’t have accountability and yet we expect things to be handed to us perfectly. WHAT IS UP WITH THE ENTITLEMENT?! Unless you’ve made a huge impact on the lives of millions of people, you are nobody.
Example: The Car given to you by your parents
- It’s so easy to complain that they are not the best parents in the world for not giving you a Ferrari or Mercedez. But then when you start asking yourself “who do you think you are?” You start realizing that you are nobody. You are lucky that your parents even gave you a car in the first place. Many people don’t have their own cars. Let alone wait a long line just to secure a ride to their destination. #BeHumble
4. Behind fear is the person you want to be. If it scares you, do it! #SeekDiscomfort
Fear is something we feel when something is unfamiliar. I guess it’s our survival instinct that prompts us to stay away from things we cannot comprehend. But it’s not always a good thing. Life is about endless exploration and learning. One of the things I noticed is that as we get used to getting things instantly, we’re becoming more and more comfortable with just staying within our comfort zone. We fear growth because it’s challenging. It takes a lot of time, energy and effort with no assurance whether we’re gonna make it or not. Thus, we live a stagnant life. Which is not living at all. Don’t let fear hinder your growth. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s us being human. But build the courage to conquer it. Overcoming fear is what lits the fire inside. Its what makes us feel alive! Do something that scares you! ;) #fearlessness
5. When you’re upset, ask yourself “Did I take more than I give?”
Life is supposed to have its ups and downs. It’s inevitable to be disappointed, lonely and to feel rejected. Sometimes it’s so easy to just dwell on your problems and mope; blame it on other people or other external factors and fall into the whirlpool of self-loathing. We tend to punish ourselves for not being enough, question why we’re so unlucky and why awful things happen to us. But that’s just thinking about yourself. The moment you start repositioning your perspective in to “what you can do for other people?” instead of “what you can do for yourself?” it gives you this different drive to conquer things better. I don’t know why, but it has some kind of magic in it. It makes all your achievements more fulfilling. Especially when you see how you impact other people’s lives.
