Get out while you can.
Why am I saying this?
I am who I am because I worked on it. We are in control of who we are, who we want to become, our responses to the people around us, where we want to be, and who we want to be with. If you feel like you’re in a toxic relationship or environment gather all your resources and get out as quick as possible. Don’t feel bad that you didn’t take accountability, don’t feel bad because you’re ought to save them. Leaving is the best thing you can do for them. Staying will encourage complacency and will corrupt your own values. Remember, it is not your responsibility to take care of a person unless they’re your underaged child or really old parents. It is everyone’s obligation to take accountability for their own happiness and how they treat other people.
Why should you consider what I am saying? I used to be a really precarious person before. I tend to be depressed often and it was very difficult for me to love myself because of where I was at. But I’m not there now, don’t worry. It took myriads of horrendous self-confrontations, years of investing in myself, building up my self-worth, mindset, and risks of taking things into my own hands. Tell you what, it was hella terrifying but I guarantee you it’s worth it. Don’t get me wrong, I still have my insecurities, but I learned to work on the things I can and to be okay with the things I can’t. It was relieving then I started feeling more at ease. But it took years of hard work.
Again, I took matters into my own hands.
Being mentally and emotionally stable, I still had a soft spot for people who were in a situation similar to where I was before. So I tend to comfort them and encourage them to grow. But the difficult thing about comforting wounded souls is the height of their paranoia and they are insensitive to how their actions affect the people around them. I wanted to help them heal because I’ve been there before and I know how I wish I met someone more emotionally and mentally mature to help me realize things earlier. But this might not be the best choice for everyone.
There were many times I wanted to get out and leave. But I couldn’t even if my consciousness is telling me over and over again that everything that that person stands for is the opposite of who I am, how I think, how I see things, and where I want to be in general. But a part of me felt sorry, that if I leave I will be doing the same thing that other people did that left them scarred. I felt like if I do that, I am a bad person because I knew this was the least of what they needed and I’m adding another rejection to their lives. I felt like if I leave, I’m selfish for only thinking about myself and my future. So I did what my gut tells me was wrong, yet based on logical reasoning is morally accepted. I STAYED. Little did I know, that repeated exposure to their unhealthy mindset was poisoning me. It corrupted my drive, my perspective, and my thoughts about the people around me. Slowly, I was being poisoned from the cheerful, driven Trish to the person who holds back, untrusting, and insecure again. I started having paranoia that everyone hates me. That everyone is conspiring against me. Due to the repeated thoughts inserted in my head that I used to just laugh at.
I remember in a Sunday Service it was cited that “bad company corrupts good morals” and a good quote from my favorite book says:
“only people in pain do painful things to others. Those who are suffering create suffering. And individuals whose behavior is confusing are generally very confused themselves. They’re just really hurting. And something has happened to them that has caused them to feel threatened. And so the goodness at their core has contracted and closed.”
“it’s really important to avoid ‘bad people,’ those who are filled with wounds from the past that they don’t have the self-awareness not to project onto you.”
Excerpt From
The 5 AM Club
Robin Sharma
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It is crucial to stay away from wounded spirits because they can injure you too. We have to respect ourselves. Protect ourselves. We don’t have the assurance that they will be there when the going gets tough. They will not be there to cheer you up when you achieved something. They will not be there to push you to push for the things you want to achieve. It’s all on you.
This is why we should watch out for our environment. It plays a significant role in what is going on with us internally. We need to take care of ourselves; to be in the best state physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We need to be our best selves. So, we can fulfill our aspirations and be ready whenever the opportunity strikes because it may not strike again. We have continuously and consistently work on ourselves, to be the best version of ourselves to serve the world for the greater good.
Letting someone corrupt you from all this is like stealing the greatness you can do to others and unrealized potential will turn that energy into pain. It may also corrupt your heart to be closed and the people who deserve your good soul will not experience your pure love. Save yourself, don’t feel bad or afraid. Get out.
To end everything in a light tone, maybe leaving them will wake them up to start taking responsibility for honing themselves and it might be the best thing that you could ever do for them.
